Saturday, May 16, 2015

Thoughts on Motherhood

I have done A LOT of thinking about what being a mother really is.
ANYONE can be a mother. 
But it takes dedication, perseverance, patience, kindness, gentleness, selflessness, and stillness to be a GOOD mother.
I'm not writing this post towards anyone, but for myself. To remind myself what my boys need each day and to maybe inspire some of you that are struggling.  
I have a whole different outlook on motherhood now that my boys are 6 and 4. When I first started this journey with a newborn baby boy, I was much different. I had different thoughts and different values than I do now.
I would say I have grown leaps and bounds over what I felt 6 years ago.
It's not about the money, or the amount of toys your children have.
It's not about how many hours of work you put into your career each week to give everything to your child and more.
It's not about pushing your child to the extreme in every sport just to "look" good to others.
It's not about the brand name clothes that you just have to have for your child or they may be labeled differently.
It's about TIME.
Really spending time with them and playing. That is what they are remembering.
I see so many parents at the parks these days with their phone in their face. It makes me sad they are missing LIFE.
Why do you take your children to the park in the first place? To me it's about getting them out and interacting with them outdoors. To get fresh air. To run and play.
Not for you to sit on the bench and be busy on your phone.
It hits me like a ton of bricks when I actually hear kids talking about their parents. Teaching Kindergarten this year has been a HUGE eye opener for me.
I'm going to leave you with a conversation I had with one of my five year old students just this month coming up on Mother's Day.
ME: I want you to write down what your favorite thing to do with mommy is.
Student: What do you mean?
ME: Well what does she play with you, or what do you all enjoy together?
Student: She doesn't play....
ME: So what do you do with mom when she's at home? What does she do?
Student: I just play in my room by myself, and mom looks on her phone.
That was a hard conversation to choke down. It was even harder to find something to write on her Mother's Day card that she could say her and her mom do, when in reality there is nothing they do together.
There is so much more to life than looking on facebook, or Instagram, or even blogging. What are we really gaining doing any of these things?
Soak in the moments with your little ones.
These are the days you will look back on. Even the horrible, long, kid screaming, messy house, days that you want to be over so bad. These are the days you will remember the most.

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